"The Whispers of Strangers," or
How I Got Myself Into This Mess
Part Two of Three
By Wesley J. Smith
Editor's note. The following is
from Wesley's outstanding blog,
http://www.firstthings.com/blogs/secondhandsmoke/
I was just interviewed by a high
school student about how I
became involved in anti assisted
suicide activism. It's a painful
story. I was very happily
co-authoring books with Ralph
Nader, who had been my hero as a
teenager. I couldn't believe my
good fortune to be both his
colleague and friend. But as I
was immersed in the writing of
what turned out to be our last
book together, my friend Frances
committed suicide.
What
I learned about her death
changed my life forever, and
induced me to charge into the
assisted suicide issue in full
throated opposition–which led to
everything else. That process
began with an article I wrote
for Newsweek back in 1993 in a
column called "The Whispers of
Strangers." From the column
[http://www.newsweek.com/id/121086]
"Today is my 76th birthday," the
letter began. "Unassisted and by
my own free will, I have chosen
to take my final passage."
Suicide. My friend Frances died
in a cold, impersonal hotel room
after taking an overdose of
sleeping pills, with a plastic
bag tied over her head
suffocating the life out of her
body. Frances was not a happy
woman. She had family troubles.
She suffered from chronic
lymphatic leukemia and was
facing the difficult prospect of
a hip replacement. She also had
a chronic nerve condition that
caused her to feel a burning
sensation on her skin. But
Frances was lucid, aware and
involved. And she certainly was
not terminal, at least not in
the sense of impending death. In
all likelihood, she had years of
productive and meaningful life
ahead of her. I am still in
control," she wrote. "The choice
is mine–this act is not one of
'suicide'-I consider that it
[is] my final passage."
Frances wasn't terminally ill.
She had family problems and some
afflictions. She had been on and
off suicidal for years. But the
nature of the thing, how it came
to pass, if you will, disturbed
me greatly, and I couldn't just
mourn her and move on:
I had come to believe that she
had a whisperer quietly urging
her on. After her death, I
learned there was indeed such a
"voice." I discovered it among
her possessions that her
executor sent me. Frances had a
suicide file (ever the
organizer, she kept a file for
everything), filled with
publications from the Hemlock
Society and other writings
extolling the moral correctness
of self-termination and
euthanasia. That these writings
had a major influence on Frances
there can be no doubt. They were
carefully clipped and
highlighted in yellow marking
ink. Many were dogeared from
frequent reading. One of the
articles was a "how to" piece
that told the reader the best
drug to take and the proper use
of a plastic bag placed loosely
over the head to make sure death
was not foiled. As I read the
piece, I felt chills run up my
spine. It was as if I were
reading an exact description of
Frances's suicide, so closely
had she followed the
instructions. I also found
several articles recounting
stories of "good" suicides.
These tales, eerily comparable
to the religious practice of
"witnessing" to spread the
faith, had a consistent theme:
that suicide could be
empowering, beneficial and a
positive, even uplifting,
experience.
Even then–as a first impression,
if you will–before the years of
study, in depth interviews for
Forced Exit–including with
euthanasia advocates in the
Netherlands–further research for
Culture of Death, international
travel, countless
radio/television interviews,
debates with the world's
foremost assisted suicide
advocates, I knew instinctively
where this would all lead:
Frances once told me that
through her death she would be
advancing a cause. It is a cause
I now deeply despise. Not only
did it take Frances, but it
rejects all that I hold sacred
and true: that the preservation
of human life is our highest
moral ideal; that a principal
purpose of government is as a
protector of life; that those
who fight to stay alive in the
face of terminal disease are
powerful uplifters of the human
experience. [This was an
allusion to actor Michael
Landon, who some may recall had
fought a courageous and public
fight against pancreatic cancer,
appearing on the Tonight Show to
tell Johnny Carson and the
country about his struggle.]
Of greater concern to me is the
moral trickledown effect that
could result should society ever
come to agree with Frances. Life
is action and reaction, the
proverbial pebble thrown into
the pond. We don't get to the
Brave New World in one giant
leap. Rather, the descent to
depravity is reached by small
steps.
First, suicide is promoted as a
virtue. Vulnerable people like
Frances become early casualties.
Then follows mercy killing of
the terminally ill. From there,
it's a hop, skip and a jump to
killing people who don't have a
good "quality" of life, perhaps
with the prospect of organ
harvesting thrown in as a plum
to society.
All of that is true or well on
the way. Kevorkian took the
kidneys of one of his assisted
suicides, and reputable
bioethicists have suggested that
obtaining organs from such
deaths would help ease the organ
shortage. Meanwhile, even more
people are urging that we
harvest the organs of people in
a PVS–in other words kill them
for their organs.
I had planned for this article
to be the beginning and end of
my involvement with assisted
sucide–I was planning–hoping–to
continue working with Ralph. But
then I received a thick bundle
of hate mail accusing me of
being Torquemada, wishing that I
would suffer cancer and live
years in agony, etc.. The
letters yelled at me that
assisted suicide was the future
and euthanasia noble–whether I
liked it or not–and this was
before e-mail! I remember
reading letter after letter
thinking, "What happened to my
culture and where was I when it
happened?" And then Rita Marker
and the International Task Force
reached out, and one could say,
recruited me. And my life became
different than I had ever
expected it to be.
Ironically, Frances prided
herself on being a networker,
and she always told me that her
great strength was helping those
for whom she cared find their
proper role in life. How ironic
that in her last, lethal act,
she did that with me.
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