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For Better or For Worse
Editor's note. This is excerpted
from an editorial that ran in
the December 7, 1993, issue of
National Right to Life News. It
ran one year and one month after
pro-abortion Bill Clinton was
elected President. It is now one
year and one month since
pro-abortion Barack Obama was
elected. The editorial begins by
referring back to the many
conversations I had in November
1992 when pro-lifers were
stunned by the election of
"Slick Willie." The excerpt
begins several paragraphs in.
By Dave Andrusko
What I told them in
heart-to-heart talks formed the
basis for remarks which later
appeared in this space. What I
said was that however keen the
disappointment of the hour,
however great the momentary
bitterness, quitting was an
impossibility. Why? Because you
are promise-keepers, deeply
faithful men and women given
over body and soul to fiercely
defending those too tiny or too
frail to stick up for
themselves. Whatever the wayward
direction of our culture, it
simply is not part of your
personality to use setbacks as
an excuse to evade your
individual responsibility to do
whatever you can.
Many
drew strength from Philip
Hallie's remarkable insight that
"one of the reasons
institutional cruelty exists and
persists is that people believe
that individuals can do
nothing…" We reminded one
another that we have never
fallen victim to this
morale-sapping lie. Were we
about to now just because Slick
Willie temporarily occupies 1600
Pennsylvania Avenue? Hardly.
Columnist Fred Barnes wrote
recently that Clinton was amazed
that the Pro-Life movement was
still alive and kicking. A man
of no known principles of his
own, Clinton does not understand
that yours is an open-ended
dedication to the needs of
others. But to be fair, not many
do understand our motivation. …
When we--and I do mean we, the
father as well as the
mother--conceive a child,
morally we are duty-bound to
recognize that we have
implicitly made a pledge more
lasting and of more consequence
than even a marriage vow. As a
result we are called to love
more than we planned, "or
perhaps even wished" [a
reference back to a book on
marriage discussed earlier,
titled, "For Better, For Worse:
Sober Thoughts on Passionate
Promises."]
This is Greek to the
pro-abortionist. Control,
planning, the absence of
surprise (and mystery) is their
alpha and omega. Faced with an
"unplanned pregnancy," the
instantaneous response is, "But
what about me? What a drag on my
personal growth it'll be."
Talk about dense! True
"growth"--that is, moral
maturity-- is characterized by
relinquishing self-centeredness,
to put selflessness in its
stead. In other words, to give
yourself away to others…for
better or for worse.
What prompted these ruminations
was a photo I chanced upon last
week while rummaging through an
old file. It was of a woman
marching in one of the
pro-abortion gatherings held in
Washington, D.C. a few years
ago. Herself resolutely grim,
she was accompanied by a
beautiful, smiling young girl
whose hand she held. Just about
the time you think you ought to
revise your stereotype, you
notice that around the child's
neck hangs a sign: "I'm a
choice." Good lord, what a thing
to do to your own flesh and
blood!
But this depressing reminder was
more than offset by two other
events that took place the same
day. On my way into the office,
I had listened to a broadcast by
Dr. James Dobson, president of
Focus on the Family, who spoke
of the need for our faith to be
tough. His wry point was that
life is going to give us many
opportunities to show whether we
are made of sterner stuff.
Dr. Dobson concluded with a
passage from an extraordinary
essay I had read years before.
It came from a book titled
"Mortal Lessons: Notes on the
Art of Surgery," written by Dr.
Richard Selzer. Selzer was
writing of a post-operative
scene in which, despite his
every effort, surgery to remove
a tumor had left a young wife's
mouth "twisted in palsy,
clownish."
In her husband's presence, she
asks Selzer, will she always be
this way? He answers yes, "She
nods, and is silent. But the
young man smiles. 'I like it,'
he says. 'It's kind of cute.'"
Dr. Selzer continues,
"Unmindful, he bends to kiss her
crooked mouth, and I am so close
I can see how he twists his own
lips to accommodate to hers, to
show that their kiss still
works. I remember that the gods
appeared in ancient Greece as
mortals, and I hold my breath
and let the wonder in."
Dr. Dobson quite properly notes
that the young man was no god,
only a good man, a faithful
husband whose love was made of
sterner stuff. The kind of stuff
pro-lifers are made of.
Later that same day, as I walked
back to my car, I chanced upon
one of those small human dramas
typically no one ever knows
about. It was a bitterly cold
Washington, D.C., night. I was
hurrying along at my usual warp
speed when I saw two street
people. As I approached I could
see that they had what probably
was a sum total of their earthly
possessions in a little metal
cart that tagged along behind
them.
Looking closer I saw that the
younger man was carefully
holding the elbow of the older
gentleman, patiently guiding him
around some broken glass toward
an open door. As I drew abreast,
I heard the tap-tap-tapping
sound made by a white cane. The
scene nearly reduced me to
tears. Obviously down on his own
luck, the younger man
nevertheless cared enough to
help his blind friend find
shelter from the howling wind
and near-freezing temperatures.
I understand in a fresh way what
it means when we say we care for
the "least of them."
I freely confess that because of
who I am and what I do, this
season has an extraordinary
effect on me. For among the many
marvelous messages of the scene
depicted on our front cover [a
drawing of two young siblings
looking over the Nativity
Scene], none is more enduring,
more eternally contemporary than
unconditional love. Such love
depends not on my goodness or
your goodness but His loving
faithfulness. He remembers us
all… always.
May I just relay one more story?
I think you will agree it drives
the point home. It was told to
me last week by my wife, Lisa.
It seems Joanna, our six year
old, had been playing peacefully
all day long with her
four-year-old sister, Louisa.
(That alone should have tipped
us off something unusual was in
the wind.) For some reason,
Joanna suddenly piped up, "Oh,
when we die we won't be able to
play together." Whether it was
the look on Louisa's face or
Joanna's own tender heart, she
quickly ad-libbed, "But we can
play together in heaven."
Louisa, for her part, was not so
easily satisfied. "But how will
I find you?" she asked
anxiously. Easy, Joanna replied
confidently. They'd each have
their own mansion. "You can look
for mine," she said. "It'll have
a sign, 'Joanna's mansion.'"
Louisa then looked up at her big
sister and responded in her most
solemn voice, "But I can't
read!"
I'm told Joanna paused for only
an instant. And then in her best
it'll-be-alright-voice, she
reassured her little sister,
"Don't worry. You don't die
before you learn to read."
We laughed, but then, almost at
the same instant, we both
thought of the 30 million
preborn children who sadly,
never had a chance to learn to
read.
I'm convinced that pro-lifers
are given these precious moments
not only to make us love our
children even more but also to
fortify us for the challenges
ahead. And because we so love
all little children, I believe
we have been given special
insights into the Lord's heart.
We know that He expects us to be
faithful, just as He is
faithful. We know that we are to
do all that we can for the
babies until He calls us home.
That is our awesome
responsibility but also our
glorious privilege.
When we are in His presence I
know beyond a shadow of a doubt
that there will be mansions
waiting for us. I believe the
loveliest will be set aside for
the children He treasures so
much. And may I suggest that the
most beautiful mansions of all
will be reserved for those who
came into His presence before
they learned to read. |