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"There Was a Life That Had to
Be Cared For"
Editor's note. I am using today to work on the
special January National Right to Life News
Commemorative edition and taking tomorrow off to
quiet my soul for Christmas. In place of new
TN&Vs, I am reprinting two of my favorite NRL
News stories. I hope you like them as well.
Merry Christmas from the Andruskos!
"The human imagination can do
many extraordinary things. But we can't imagine
love. Or perhaps I mean loving: love as a
continuous state; one that carries on in much
the same way from day to day, changing and
growing with time just as people do. The great
stories of literature are about meeting and
falling in love, about infidelity, about
passion. They are seldom about the routines of
married life and having children." -- From "I'm
not a saint, just a parent" by Simon Barnes,
London Times, November 13, 2006
For years I have been
fascinated by an insight Philip Yancey, one of
my favorite writers, borrowed from theologian H.
Richard Niebuhr. I have shared it so often and
in so many settings, it's odd that I did not
think of using it in my role as editor of NRL
News until last month.
Yancey writes, "Before its
discovery [the Rosetta Stone] Egyptologists
could only guess at the meaning of
hieroglyphics. One unforgettable day, they
uncovered a dark stone that rendered the same
text in Greek, ordinary Egyptian script, and
previously indecipherable hieroglyphics. By
comparing translations side by side [since they
knew Greek and ordinary Egyptian script], they
mastered hieroglyphics and could now see clearly
into a world they had known only in a fog."
To 98% of the American people,
the abortion debate is like that. It is shrouded
in a fog of conflicting claims and
counter-claims. What can unlock the "secrets" to
reveal to them who has the legitimate claim to
their allegiance?
For those who honestly don't
understand whether pro-lifers or
pro-abortionists are right, what you might
suggest to them is that they lay the conflicting
claims side and side and use the way the two
sides deal with the mother and child bond as the
contemporary Rosetta Stone.
To pro-abortionists (on their
best day), the unborn child is a appendage that
can/ought to be cut off if "it" comes into
existence at an inconvenient time. It's hard to
miss the staggering irony.
Six days a week and twice on
Sundays, pro-abortionists accuse pro-lifers of
forgetting/ignoring/overlooking the woman. Yet
it is they who treat the woman in isolation.
They are the ones who insist
on viewing the unborn as if the child,
unbeknownst to the mother, were a trunk that
mysteriously made its way onto the ship. As mere
luggage, rather than a real human being, the
unborn child can be tossed overboard without
compunction.
We recognize the moral (not to
mention biological) poverty of seeing the mother
as if she were a solo passenger. This means our
task is much more difficult, but far more
rewarding.
We care about both. We want
both to reach safe harbor.
But there are other categories
of powerless people who need our help: babies
born with serious disabilities and the medically
vulnerable elderly, to name two. If I could, let
me briefly talk about babies who used to be
called "Baby Does."
A prestigious British think
tank not only is recommending limited (or no)
treatment for premature babies, it also
expressly took disability into account when
formulating its heartless guidelines. But at
least these children were allowed to be born.
The same kind of advanced
technology that allows parents to view their
bouncing baby boy in utero also affords them the
hitherto secret knowledge that Johnny won't be
perfect. Overwhelmingly, the sentence for daring
to be imperfect is death.
Simon Barnes and his wife,
Cindy, chose otherwise. In a remarkably powerful
excerpt from a new book that appeared in
mid-November in the London Times, Barnes wrote
about his five-year-old son, Eddie, whom they
knew before he joined them outside the womb had
Down syndrome.
Barnes, the lead sports writer
for the London Times, refuses to be "canonized."
The title of his piece is, "I'm not a saint,
just a parent."
He is the first to admit how
easily things could have turned out otherwise.
Barnes writes, "At the hospital, when they
discovered on the scan that Down's syndrome was
a possibility, they very kindly offered to kill
him for us."
Had he been married to someone
other than Cindy, Barnes writes, "and had that
woman preferred to go the way of amniocentesis
and termination, I have no doubt that I would
have gone along with that, too, and treated
parents of Down's syndrome children with a lofty
pity."
But "They needn't have
bothered," he writes. "The idea of not caring
for something in your care is an abomination to
her. The idea of not caring for her own child
was impossible to contemplate. Amniocentesis?
Not a chance, it puts the child at risk. And no
matter what such a test would say about the
child, she would go ahead. There was a life that
had to be cared for."
"There was a life that had to
be cared for." Not a bad motto for the Pro-Life
Movement.
There will be occasions in the
future when people who have formed no alliances
will, in essence, throw up their hands in
frustration. They will lament, "Who is right?"
These situations should be seen for what they
are: golden opportunities.
Your answer will be simple.
You will ask them to consider which side refuses
to choose death over life, refuses to puzzle
over elementary human biology as if it were
written in Sanskrit, would be incredulous if you
suggested they could abandon their own, and
refuses to give into despair.
I'll take our chances, won't you?
If you have any observations,
drop me a line at
daveandrusko@gmail.com. |