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Several years ago, a friend of 25+ years moved to Alaska with her
husband. She's made a point of sending me stories about Sarah Palin, the
state's pro-life governor. I am very much the better for her kindness.
When I opened my email this morning, the subject line of my dear
friend's latest contribution read, "You WILL want to read this." Sure
enough, I did. And, I suspect, so will you.
I found a link to a story that appears in today's Anchorage Daily
News and is titled, "Palins' child diagnosed with Down syndrome." [www.adn.com/626/story/382864.html]
Such a headline, while perfectly understandable, says a lot and says
nothing.
It is true that Sarah and Todd Palin's fifth child--Trig Paxson Van
Palin--has been diagnosed to have Down syndrome. And it is also true
that at age 44, there was a greater chance that Gov. Palin would give
birth to a baby with this genetic anomaly.
But what that headline did not tell you was the loving generosity of
the Palin family's response to Trig's birth last Friday. We can identify
all the more because Sarah Palin candidly acknowledged their initial
reaction.
"When we first heard, it was kind of confusing," she told the
Anchorage Daily News. She said the revelation was "'very, very
challenging," adding that "she initially felt sad."
But not for long. Palin told the newspaper that the family had worked
through that, and pointed to the support a big family will provide for
what's ahead. Trig is "absolutely perfect," Palin said.
Sarah and Todd were not the only Palins who feel this way. Their
oldest child, Track, is in the Army. When he learned the news, Track
texted his mother "with something to the effect of
'This is just so cool -- I finally got my brother.'"
Reporter Lisa Demer's fine story is replete with telling details. We
learn, for example, that Sarah Palin emailed a letter after Trig's birth
to relatives and close friends.
"Children are the most precious and promising ingredient in this
mixed-up world you live in down there on Earth. Trig is no different,
except he has one extra chromosome," Palin wrote.
"Many people will express sympathy, but you don't want or need that,
because Trig will be a joy. You will have to trust me on this."
Demer explains that Palin's "wrote it in the voice of and signed it
as 'Trig's Creator, Your Heavenly Father.'"
Perhaps most important of all, Demer adds, "As for people who think a
baby like Trig shouldn't even be born, look around, the governor wrote.
Who is perfect or even normal?"
For her story Demer interviewed Judy Waldron, president of the Alaska
chapter of the National Down Syndrome Congress, described as a support
and education group. We learn several important things from that
discussion.
It is now very common for families to know their baby will have Down
syndrome, because prenatal testing is so prevalent. Left unsaid in the
story is that upwards of 90% of these babies will be aborted.
We also learn that the group delivered a "parent packet" to the
family at the hospital. This is so vital, because families in this
situation will typically hear virtually nothing but bad news. They need
to know, as Waldron explained, that while it's "no walk in the park,"
the "joys are great."
Demer's story deserves to be read in its entirety. The link again is
www.adn.com/626/story/382864.html.
The story ends perfectly, so let me just quote it verbatim:
"Palin said she won't take maternity leave but will go with Trig to
doctor's visits, physical therapy, whatever he needs. She's breast
feeding and plans to bring Trig to work with her, just as she did with
Piper.
"'It just feels like he fits perfectly,' Palin said. 'He is supposed
to be here with us.'"